After the brouhaha stirred up by JKR’s most recent statement, I am just going to make a couple of comments, then I am going to leave the topic behind.
First, RaM and my other stories with Albus in them are based on the character we came to know in the first five or six books. I knew that DH would render AU the personal history I had created for Albus. Before it came out, I thought I might be able to revise my outline and story plans to fit at least a little bit with DH, but once the book came out, it became clear to me that I couldn’t revise my outline and AD’s personal history without destroying the plot of RaM, and even destroying RaM!Albus, so I decided not to pay any attention to DH. Now I am doubly glad I decided to do that!
When I read DH, I thought that there was enough hero-worship and adulation of Grindelwald that it would likely inspire slash-shippers to ship them, but I still didn’t read Albus as gay. But I figure that people can go off to their corners of fandom and play with the characters however they like. It didn’t appeal to me at all, but the primary reason was that I didn’t like the DH!Albus, yet even shipping DH!Albus with GG struck me as distasteful because of who GG was, completely apart from any personal preference for reading and writing het fics in general.
Anyway, I am ignoring JKR’s statement when it comes to my fics. And it’s easier to do that and stick with what we learn in canon about him — even in DH — and keep basic canon facts intact than it would be to write slash with the characters who have been obviously straight from the very beginning of the series. People have a lot of fun writing HP/DM, for example, and even HP/SS (which seems massively impossible to me and I don’t think I could wrap my brain around those two characters getting together and keeping them in character and relatively compliant with canon), so I see no problem continuing to write ADMM, particularly since there is nothing explicit in the books that makes it counter-canon. And if people can write SSHG stories, even when DH had SS die and HG (very predictably and rather disappointingly — for me) marry Ron, and find a huge readership for that pairing, then I don’t see why people should carp about ADMM being “impossible.”
If someone is really rigid about having everything be absolutely canon, they can just go find other things to read. Personally, I think that all fanfic is more-or-less AU, anyway, and I think the very best fanfics capture the flavour and essence of the Hogwarts/magical universe we got to know in the early HP series, and they abide by the general parameters of that universe, in terms of magic, creatures, the existence of pureblood ideology, and so on, and whether they abide in every detail with the personal histories of the individual characters isn’t as important — although I really don’t like it when I can’t recognise a canon character because they are behaving so OOC.
As far as JKR goes, I think she should have made Albus obviously gay right from the very first book if that was what she intended to do (though she wouldn’t have to be really explicit; I’m sure she could make it clear but subtly so — and far less subtly than just giving him a fondness for colourful robes). If she were making him gay for some kind of gay rights thing or to give positive role models for gay kids, she had SEVEN books to introduce gay characters. She could have had a gay couple appear in the books, as “supporting characters,” for example, but she didn’t. And then she didn’t even make it obvious in Book Seven that she was making Albus gay, or even announce it immediately after publication when people were asking about him, but instead she came out with the statement MONTHS later. And what is the one single gay relationship she presents? One with a Dark Wizard who was the nastiest character to come along until Riddle. Not exactly a positive role model, IMO.
I would have whole-heartedly approved it if she had introduced gay characters in the books — in the books, not months afterwards, as a seeming afterthought or possible publicity stunt.
Anyway, JKR wrote her books, made her millions, and is now purportedly working on another book in a different genre. She created a fascinating universe, one her fans love to play in. I am going to continue playing in it till I become bored with it, and my Albus will always be RaM!Albus, or very much like him. If others choose to write him differently, that’s up to them. Have fun with it, enjoy it, and if you like RaM!Albus, I hope you will continue to enjoy my stories.